Episode 217: Expand Your Capacity to Feel Good, Stop Self-Sabotaging, and Create the Healthiest Relationship Ever with Gay and Katie Hendricks

Why do we hit invisible ceilings in our happiness, love, and success?

This is the "upper limit problem," and it's sneakier than you might think… often leading us to self-sabotage, just when things are starting to look up.

Today’s guests, Gay and Katie Hendricks, are literally Karolina’s idols. Experts on all things personal growth and relationships, they have trained thousands of coaches, authored more than 40 books, and have even appeared on Oprah.

It’s time to peel back the layers of upper limits and smash our own glass ceilings. When we fear we’re shining too bright, we’re dimming our zone of genius. This problem can also seep into our relationships – impacting our personal growth AND our happiness.

Karolina has experienced the upper limit problem personally and with her clients. Hear how she had one of the worst weeks ever following the excitement of her 6-figure book deal. Why is this phenomenon even happening to us?

Don’t miss the key insights from Gay and Katie on “conscious loving” to build healthy, dynamic relationships, and how to unlearn the unconscious patterns we repeatedly fall into.

IN THIS EPISODE:

What is an upper limit? And the evolutionary reasons why people often can’t handle long periods of time where things go well
How to unearth your genius by revisiting your childhood: what did you love to do? How did time used to disappear?
The limiting beliefs that can crimp your genius – for example, that you’re fundamentally flawed in some way
How Gay and Katie met, a glimpse into the roots of their love story, and the theory behind “conscious loving”, to increase the energy you have together
The #1 relationship killer and the three BIG emotions you need to get good at in order to solve problems
Using body sensations to develop your emotional intelligence

REFLECTION QUESTION

How would you define your own upper limit, and what specific moments in your life do you notice yourself beginning to self-sabotage when things are going well?

“People have some success at work or at home, or wherever – or they just feel good inside for a few days, and then, inevitably, they do something to mess it up. I started calling it the “upper limit problem” because as we went around the world, we saw it everywhere. Doesn't matter if you're in Bombay or Beverly Hills or the Bronx. Wherever you are, the same thing happens. What if we could identify those upper limit problems? Could we extend the periods of time we were feeling good and feeling in the flow?” - Gay and Katie Hendricks

“There's a different kind of energy when you are expressing your genius. It creates a different kind of nutrient inside that's different than the kind of artificial high that you get either from alcohol or that adrenaline hit. It's much more sustainable and deeply satisfying. But most people are unfamiliar with feeling that good on a steady basis. And so there's this adaptation to, ‘wow, can life actually be this much fun, this sweet?’” - Gay and Katie Hendricks

LINKS/RESOURCES MENTIONED

Read some of Karolina’s all-time favorite books by Gay and Katie Hendricks, including The Big Leap and Conscious Loving, and learn about the Hendricks Institute. On their website, you can also find their content about befriending fear.

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